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Monday, March 25, 2013

Wedding RSVP Rants

I need to rant!!!!
I'm so frustrated and heart broken. Out of the 40-50 plus people we've invited on Allen's side, only eight are coming. Yes, eight. You would think that with the absence of his deceased father, his relatives would make an extra effort to attend? No? Does that NOT make any sense?! I mean it's difficult as it is to have his mother say that she's not attending= NO PARENTS on his side.. and now, NONE of his 50+ relatives are even making an effort to come. PATHETIC.


Did I mention that Allen is the eldest and first son on his extended families side to get married? I mean the entire situation is flipping ridiculous. 

I'm so heated. The ONLY family member attending is his younger brother. WOW. I'm not a bitter person and I absolutely believe in forgiveness, but this?! This is just... unforgivable. They're all cut off. EVERY SINGLE one of them. ESPECIALLY his other sibling. She's nonexistent to me and my future family.

Ok, to make matters worst, aside from his four groomsmen, only four others are attending. THIS IS NOT NORMAL RIGHT?! I mean, honestly?! Allen is the most amazing and loyal friend you can ask for. He's been in so many weddings himself as a groomsmen and half the people that he was a groomsmen for, aren't even coming. Really?!

With me feeling this way, I can only imagine how Allen truly feels. I'm trying not to explode in front of him and trying to comfort him but I'm so fired up inside. I won't forget this. They've burned a bridge.


shirley said...

I can't imagine what you're going through. But I agree stay poised in front of your fiancé. This is a true test of friendship and loyalty. Weed out the negative people because your new life together is about you and if these people aren't about you don't care for them either. Stay strong Jinah, I've looked up to you for a long time and I am so happy that you are going to get the fairy tale Prince Charming you deserve.

Unknown said...

ugh, that sounds awful! It's great that you are being so supportive of Allen and honestly, it'll be good to know who the people worth keeping in your life are. Besides, they wedding is about you guys, not all the debbie downers - you'll still have an amazing wedding day!

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Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear. But could travel cost and time be the reasons most of them aren’t attending? I’m of Chinese descent and it’s jut not in our culture (at least in my family) to spend money and time off work to attend a wedding across the country. It’s common for a couple in your situation to hold two weddings. The real wedding at your desired location and then a simpler one at the family’s hometown.

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long time quiet reader said...

Hi Jinah,

I know it's hard to see right now, but everything will be fine in the end. Sometimes things don't happen the way you imagine/wish they would. When I got married, I was engaged for almost 2 years, my parents had not spoken to me for about a year (yet I was forced to live in the same house as them - yes, I'm Korean), I had to pick out and buy my own dress by myself, and didn't have anyone in my family there to support me - so we ended up driving to Vegas and planned things as we went. I was so sad, but at the same time, things amazingly fell right into place as if it were meant to be (we were literally planning our honeymoon right after we said our vows).
In the end, I guess I learned that all we needed was the support of his family - which they were very supportive and I love them for that. I've been quietly reading your blog/watching your videos for years now, and it's clear that your family is a loving one that will give you all the support and love that you and Allen need. You can only hope his family comes around, but until then, just remember to enjoy each other. :)


long time quiet reader said...

oh and I forgot to say, congrats on losing so much weight! you look amazing!! :)

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Unknown said...

Damn! That’s not right at all. A person can’t even take out a single day for a wedding? This is heart breaking. Happened with one of my friend also, she booked one of the biggest San Francisco wedding venues and so many of her friends did not show up. It was really sad!

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